From the Outside Looking In
I want to take it away. The pain, the agony, the terror. I see it staring from behind your eyes; disbelief, horror, sadness- deep, deep...
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Jul 20, 20222 min
On the Cliff
I can think of three people in my life that I love even though they no longer live. Death has removed them from this earth. The knowledge...
May 11, 20221 min
COPE
I shared with you a few weeks ago about a virtual retreat. With permission, I am able to invite you to my session on the retreat. How to...
Mar 9, 20221 min
Comfort in Love and Grief
The relationship you have with your beloved is very unique. Two separate beings coming together, creating something that no other two...
Jan 19, 20222 min
Protecting Our Grief
“Call me if you need anything”. Anyone who has ever experienced the death of a loved one has heard those words. This phrase is used...
Nov 24, 20211 min
Gratitude in Grief
You are living a sorrow that you never knew existed; a pain that can only be understood by experience. The dark side of love. In the...
Oct 27, 20211 min
Satin Ribbons and Flowers
The oak casket was surrounded by flowers of yellow, gold, red and orange. Enormous copper-colored mums took up floor space and autumn...
Sep 30, 20212 min
A Call to Remember
As a funeral director I was often asked how I could do my job; being around death and grief and sadness every single day. How did I do...
Sep 15, 20214 min
In This Room
The hush filled the room. It wasn’t the normal quiet, void of distracting noises. This was the silence that demanded respect. This was...
Aug 18, 20213 min
Grounded in Grief
….And the two shall become one……. Whether you have experienced this as a married couple or have experienced this as a soulmate or a...
Jul 14, 20213 min
Pieces of a Broken Heart
I was jolted out of a deep sleep at 3:00am. One ring, two rings, I rolled over, flipped on the light and answered the phone all before...
Jun 30, 20213 min
Fur Feathers or Scales
I was excited to read the study conducted by Joanne Cacciatore, Kara Thieleman, Ruth Fretts and Lori Barnes Jackson. The title was, What...
Jun 2, 20212 min
The Market Lady
I was walking through a street market the other day. At one of the vendor booths sat a lady on a stool. She didn’t notice the shoppers...
Apr 14, 20212 min
Sacred Moments
Every moment is a secret cache. Every breathe is an offering. And every increment of time is irreplaceable. The only thing for which life...
Mar 10, 20214 min
If Only
“I can’t believe I let him go. I should have made him stay home.” “I should have insisted she go to the ER.” “If only I wouldn’t have had...
Feb 3, 20213 min
Silence of Absence
“Nothing can make up for the absence of someone we love, and it would be wrong to try and find a substitute: we must simply hold out and...
Jan 27, 20214 min
"Being There"
You’ve heard that phrase before. People will often thank specific people for “being there.” What does that actually mean? You may have a...
Jan 20, 20213 min
The Truth the Whole Truth
Deborah Adele, in her book The Yamas & Niyamas, repeated Carl Yung asking, “what is so dangerous in the moment about the truth that you...
Jan 6, 20213 min
Tasks of Grief
How many children do you have? It was a simple question, the lady behind the counter was doing her job. But that day, I instantly was...
Nov 11, 20203 min
The Mister and His Wife
A sweet, older gentleman sat across the quiet room from me. I’ve seen men like him before, rounded shoulders, stubble of whiskers on the...
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